HOW YOU ARE IN RELATIONSHIPS QUIZ?

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24

Are effective at building relationships with others. Ask yourself:   How are you in your relationships? Do PEOPLE know that you love them? Test yourself with this tool.

Circle the number that best applies to you. (1-poor, 2-fair, 3-good, 4-very good, 5-excellent).

Poor        to       Excellent

1)   Listen attentively when others are talking.  Ability to avoid

changing the focus to me.                                                                        1       2       3       4       5

2)   Remember issues event in others lives                                                 1       2       3       4       5

3)   Seek to understand before being understood.                          1       2       3       4       5

4)   Genuinely pleased when others tell me good news. Give encouragement

and praise.                                                                                        1       2       3       4       5

5)   Am I slow to anger?                                                                    1       2       3       4       5

6)   Quick to forgive. Willing to forgive again                                          1       2       3       4       5

7)  How willing am I to consider areas for my improvement from people

who know me and whose judgment I value?                                                1       2       3       4       5

8)   Am I distrustful? What is the effect on my relationship with God and

with others ? Have hurt and rejection in the past affected the way I am

with others now?                                                                              1       2       3       4       5

9)   Nonjudgmental of the choices of others.                                        1       2       3       4       5

10)  Willingness to tell those I care for if he/she may be offending God.   1       2       3       4       5

11)  Willingness to tell others if I am angry with them or hurt by them.   1       2       3       4       5

12)  Consider relationships opportunities to serve and glorify God.         1       2       3       4       5

13)  Willingness to offer help when I see the need.                               1       2       3       4       5

14)  Am I responsive to God directing me to or away from a relationship?1       2       3       4       5

15)  Ability to accept help from others when I need it.                           1       2       3       4       5

16)  Willing to tell AND do things that express my care for others?                1       2       3       4       5

17)  How willing am I to invest time and energy into my relationships?           1       2       3       4       5

18)  In seeking or providing guidance do you seek God’s wisdom and

direction before speaking?                                                                         1       2       3       4       5

19) Is my character primary in my relationship?  Or do I compromise

my character                                                                                           1       2       3       4       5

20)   In pursuing relationships do I value the character of others do I

value other elements more?                                                                       1       2       3       4       5

21)  Am I a friendly person?   What could I do to be more friendly?               1       2       3       4       5

22)  In my relationships am I someone who will be there for him or her?        1       2       3       4       5

Two ways to evaluate:

1)  You can sum points and divide by 22 to compute average.

2)  Develop a personal plan which emphasizes areas in need of growth.

Are there areas you can improve?   How?  Think through the steps needed to put into action in a specific instance? Allow God to help develop the skills and willingness necessary.  If not, why not?

Adapted from: Into Thy Word